It does not matter if you live in California or another state, the fact that the divorce process can be difficult on any children involved is no surprise. This is even more so the case if one or both of the parents neglect to sit down and talk with the child or children who are going through this difficult transition.
Regardless of age, parents need to pay close attention to children as the divorce process unwinds. This will ensure that everybody is on the same page and that there is no unnecessary fallout as a result.
From the start, it is a must for the parents to explain that a child is not responsible for the divorce. It is not uncommon for children to believe that they had something to do with the split, especially if they are not old enough to know the difference.
Children also need to realize that there is no right or wrong way to feel. Everybody deals with divorce in their own way, and children are no different. They need to know that there is nothing wrong with their emotions, no matter what they may be.
Of course, it is also a good idea to let children know that you, as well as your ex spouse, are available to talk in the future about anything that comes up.
The fact that divorce is difficult on everybody involved is no surprise. Parents who have a child need to make sure he or she does not feel left out during this very difficult time. A support team of a therapist, financial counselor and experienced divorce attorney may help make the process easier.
Source: The Huffington Post, "10 Things All Divorcing Parents Should Say To Their Kids" Sophie Rosen, Apr. 02, 2014