Nobody dreams of the day when they are faced with divorce. Unfortunately, this happens to thousands of people every year.
There is nothing wrong with divorce if you have tried to save your marriage. If you realize that it cannot be saved, if you know that this is the best step, there is no reason to put it off any longer.
Of course, you don't want to give up easily. There are some things you can do before filing for divorce:
-- Take action. Rather than think about stopping the divorce, communicate this to your spouse. Let him or her know that you are serious about putting an end to the marital problems and getting back on track.
-- Be clear as to what you need to change. The conversation should be a two-way street. You need to discuss what you are going to change for the better, while expecting your partner to do the same.
-- Put the past in the past (right now). Are you carrying around hurt feelings? Have you hurt your spouse in some way? You must find a way to put this in the past once and for all. This is the only way to move forward in a healthy manner.
Some people are able to stop a divorce from happening while others are not. The only thing you can do is give it a try. If you come up short, if the other person does not want to cooperate, you can always begin the divorce process in California. Either way, you are working towards a better future.
Source: Psychology Today, "7 Strong Steps to Stop a Divorce," accessed Jan. 28, 2016