There is no doubt about it — divorce can be a very wrenching, emotional experience for the parties involved. The same is true even if you were the spouse who initiated the divorce action in the first place.
So, you've just been served with an order to pay child support. This may have been an expected action resulting from a divorce between you and your spouse. But it also may have come like a bolt out of the blue, with this being the first notification that you have ever gotten that you fathered a child.
Sometimes, people seek divorces because they can no longer stand to remain together with their spouse. Other times, a spouse has a divorce forced upon them when they are still very much in love with their wife or husband.