After getting through the challenges of divorce, parents in California begin to transition into new parenting roles and responsibilities. These days, the most common child custody arrangements in the United States are usually joint custody or shared parenting arrangements. Cooperation between parents is crucial to shared parenting. Unfortunately, conflict from the failed marriage can sometimes creep into parenting, and here’s what to do when it does.
Let go of the past
Although it is easier said than done, leave the failed marriage in the past where it belongs. Co-parents should now focus on parenting the children and not what happened in the past relationship. When parents hold on to conflicts or events that contributed to the divorce, it may cause them to make decisions based on feelings and emotions of the past.
When faced with conflict, it’s easy to make assumptions as to why the other person is acting the way they are. However, never jump to conclusions based on assumptions. Communicate with the other parent and seek clarification, no matter how difficult the situation may seem. It may be helpful to ask questions to gain an understanding of the intentions of the other party and how to bring a resolution to the conflict.
Never forget that the children are the top priority. Put the needs and well-being of the children before personal desires and problems between parents. Those in California who have questions about child custody or custody arrangements may want to consider discussions with a legal representative. A seasoned family law attorney can provide clarity and ensure that the children’s and parents’ rights are protected.