One of the delights of being a grandparent is being able to nurture and develop a special relationship with your grandchildren. You look forward to opportunities to introduce them to family memories and fun activities you shared with your own children when they were young. You delight in spoiling them when they are with you.
If you divorced when your kids were very young, as they grow up, you may discover that the custody order needs to be adjusted to continue to meet their changing needs. These changes typically are made without too mush of a fuss from the parents or kids.
As family law attorneys, we have certainly seen some down and dirty custody battles emerge. But we always caution our clients to avoid rolling around in the mud with their exes over the divorce. These attempts to smear your ex can often wind up getting you just as dirty.
Sometimes, people seek divorces because they can no longer stand to remain together with their spouse. Other times, a spouse has a divorce forced upon them when they are still very much in love with their wife or husband.
With the push for shared custody of the children being a priority for family law courts here in Orange County, some parents may feel that it is pointless to seek sole custody of the kids in a divorce.
Summertime is a good time to review the child custody orders that are in place for your kids. What typically happens is that the children "outgrow" the original order that may now be several years old.
If you are the stepparent of your spouse's child from a previous marriage or relationship, at some point you may want to pursue adopting the child as your own. Do you have that right if your spouse gives consent?
If you share children with a spouse you're divorcing, you will likely have that person at least peripherally in your life for the foreseeable future. When the kids are minors, there will be custody exchanges and probably the payment or receipt of child support.
Cooperation is key to co-parenting. But how far should one parent go to accommodate their co-parent's requests to swap days they spend with the kids?
The decision to modify your child custody agreement should not be made lightly. After all, children thrive on structure and security, and altering their custody schedule can throw their world into flux.