Cooperation is key to co-parenting. But how far should one parent go to accommodate their co-parent’s requests to swap days they spend with the kids?
There’s usually nothing wrong with agreeing to swap weekends to compensate for scheduling SNAFUs, but if your co-parent is constantly asking to swap days or arrange early pickups, bigger problems might be brewing.
Maybe your ex’s disorganization with scheduling was one of the reasons for your divorce. It’s not fair that you have to continue to deal with the repercussions of your co-parent’s lack of organizational skills after you are divorced.
It’s a good idea to keep track of all the requests and the reasons for the proposed changes. Are the rescheduling requests due to last-minute work commitments or just another example of your child’s other parent failing to prioritize the kids? While some work requests might be impossible to dodge, if the overall pattern shows a near constant need for rescheduling, the custody arrangement might need to be tweaked.
Your parenting time with the kids is important, which is why you carefully block out the days and hours when the kids will be with you. You should expect no less from your co-parent. If they are giving short shrift to the parenting agreement that is in force, you may need to revisit the matter legally.
Your Orange County Family law attorney can help you decide whether to seek a custody modification from the courts or take other appropriate legal action to ensure that your rights to custody of your kids are protected and upheld.